How Taekwondo Changed my Life (by Master Marcy Shoberg & others)

Posted by on Dec 28, 2011 in Self Defense for Kids, Self-Defense, Taekwondo Class Topics | Comments Off on How Taekwondo Changed my Life (by Master Marcy Shoberg & others)

Many other instructors of my age and rank began martial art as a result of the Karate Kid movie.  Myself, I was a green belt when it came out.  It’s the only movie my dad and I ever saw together.

I also didn’t decide to join Taekwondo to learn to protect myself.  I fantasized about using my Taekwondo to beat up enemies of some sort, but I never had that opportunity.

But, after reading the ”Memoirs of a Bullied Kid”  I now have an answer for “How Taekwondo Has Changed my Life.”

I considered myself one of the least popular kids in my elementary school. (I had us ranked in my head like in Diary of a Wimpy Kid.)  I even did–like I tell the kids to do–privately tell those below me I was sorry I never stood up for them because I was so relieved whenever I wasn’t being picked on.

Girls who I considered my friends bullied me verbally and socially.  I made all of the mistakes of looking at the floor, not smiling, and making a big deal out of it when they pushed my buttons.

Anyway, the guy who wrote “Memoirs of a Bullied Kid” says that when his life really got bad was when he began to define himself by what his bullies called him.  When he accepted the labels they gave him, he lost all self esteem.  He’s lucky he survived and now is some kind of self-esteem expert.

As I read it I realized that Taekwondo gave me an identity outside of elementary school.  It was an identity I could be proud of.  Even as we went to middle school and I started hanging out with different friends than those who had bullied me, I still, at school, thought of myself as unpopular.   Years later I ran into some guys from middle school  and was completely shocked when they said, back then, they decided they must be cool because I went to their party once.

The thing about Taekwondo class that lets bullied kids overcome their labels is that there are people of all ages and backgrounds together, and everyone is too busy improving themselves to bully others.   If a bullied kid spends all of their time with other kids from school, or hiding in their room,  they can begin to think that’s how life is.  Doing Taekwondo gave me positive social interaction and  let me see a wider perspective on life and my future that many bullied kids lack.